If you’re waiting for someone else to tell you that you know enough, are good enough, or are allowed to trust yourself, it’s time to define your worth with citrine.

 

Your crystal and tarot practice doesn’t require someone else to certify that you are worthy of having it or using it.

 

You may think you need to know all the meanings and the “right” way to use your crystals and tarot. In this episode, we’re looking at what happens when you stop allowing external averages and standards to be the authority.

 

YOU WILL DISCOVER:

 

💫 Why your environment can affect what you believe is possible for you.

💫 Why being surrounded by people who don’t understand you doesn’t make their valuation accurate.

💫 How Citrine supports you in seeing beyond the limitations you’ve accepted.

💫 Why you can work with your crystals and tarot before mastering their meanings and properties.

💫 What happens when you stop looking outside yourself for permission to trust your crystal and tarot practice.

 

Listen now to break the pattern where you’ve been letting other people, rules, and expectations define what you’re capable of.

 

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00:00 Welcome to the Podcast

00:40 Stop Seeking Validation

02:00 The Old Car Parable

03:25 Average Pay vs Outliers

04:37 How Environments Shrink You

05:29 Citrine for Self Worth

06:23 Citrine for Staying Course

07:17 Apply to Tarot Practice

08:38 Define Worth and Expand

08:56 Rituals and Community Support

09:57 Closing and Next Steps

Episode #120 – Define Your Worth With Citrine

Welcome to the Podcast

Welcome to the Crystal Self Healer Podcast. I’m Corissa Weaver. On this podcast, we blend the magic of crystals with the science of psychology to help you break free from chaos, ditch the overwhelm, and master your emotions so you can have more energy, get more done, and feel better every day. Get ready to unlock your intuition and restore your true power as we cover how you can transform your life using crystals and self-awareness.

Are you ready to get started? All right, let’s go

Stop Seeking Validation

A lot of you have it backwards.

You’re waiting for someone outside of you to validate a worth of you that you yourself don’t believe is possible for you.

It’s not your fault either.

In a world that treasures evidentiary practices, is it any wonder that you need something outside of you to say what you are or are not worthy of?

Most of you have experienced the predefined rules around worth.

You see it in education, employment, relationships, money, where you need to prove competency before you are deemed that thing.

No one gets to wake up one morning and say, “I’m a doctor,” or, “I’m a lawyer,” without having completed the prerequisite learning to claim that identity, that worth as their own.

And I’m not going to say following the protocol to earn a professional designation is wrong or bad. But if you’re going about your life not sure of yourself, your worth in this world, and you’re waiting for someone to affirm it for you, for many of you, it will never happen.

The Old Car Parable

You may have heard the parable about the person who found an old car buried deep in a garage covered in years of dust.

When they took the car to a pawn shop or the used car lot, they received low value offers.

When they took the car to an old car club, they received immensely higher offers or valuations for the car.

Ultimately, this parable is suggesting that not all environments or people will see the value of things or people around them.

What’s valuable to remember is that the worth of the car was not limited by the low-value environments.

The value was only limited to the low offers if the person who had the car stayed with those offers instead of looking for the group that perceived the car at a higher value.

I think it goes without saying that you are not something to be bought and paid for.

You are not property.

But what I see a lot is that women accept the value people around them seem to hold as what’s possible for them.

That’s what I think needs to be challenged, especially if it doesn’t fit with who you see yourself as.

Average Pay vs Outliers

Let’s look at this another way.

When you go out looking for a job, you can easily go on the internet and find the average salary range for any job you might be interested in.

That salary range is based on companies that responded to surveys or people inputting their salary information into data collection points.

This then becomes the benchmark used by a lot of job seekers and companies for determining the pay for that position.

But if you focus only on the average, you miss the fact that there are outliers.

Companies that do pay more.

Employees who do such a great job that they get paid more.

Maybe they aren’t the norm, but it does exist.

Whether you can withstand the legwork of finding that place that sees and values you at the higher rate is within your control.

You can choose to stay where you’re maybe seen as average, or you can define your worth.

How Environments Shrink You

I’ve had many conversations with women who have spent years making themselves small or denying themselves the opportunity to be seen by people who would value them.

It’s not that these women didn’t see themselves as worthy, but that their environment wore them down over time to accept less.

They were lost inside the narrative or expectation that it was the woman’s responsibility to be the peacekeeper, to prove worth before potentially receiving it.

And for those women courageous enough to negotiate, they were labeled as bossy or difficult.

Insults specifically intended to have you questioning whether you’re expecting too much or asking for more than you deserve.

Citrine for Self Worth

This is where I would offer Citrine as a crystal to support you.

First, Citrine is excellent for promoting mental clarity.

This mental clarity helps you to see the mechanisms going on that are creating the hurdles and blocks in your life, making it easier to question whether that’s what you really want for yourself.

Next, Citrine holds a fiery but sunny energy that also stimulates creativity.

This will help you realize and see alternatives that maybe went unnoticed before because your environment was only confirming the limited low value options that have benefited the environment over you.

Finally, Citrine supports your personal will, and that’s going to be key here.

Citrine for Staying Course

If we could change our environment simply by snapping our fingers, we would.

But unfortunately, some things can take time to take root.

You may need to build self-belief so that hiccups and speed bumps don’t derail you.

You may need to be patient while other people shift and change to catch up to where you are.

You may need to learn how to accept that there will always be some spaces that will never see you as a fully realized worthy person, and it’s not your job to change them, but to not let their limited beliefs define you and yours.

That’s where Citrine really supports you for the long haul tedium of staying the course as you define your worth and stick with it.

Apply to Your Crystal and Tarot Practice

So let’s bring this concept and Citrine back to your crystal and tarot practice.

What you have going on here is a roadmap that helps you challenge the worth you’ve accepted as your ability to have a crystal and tarot practice.

One that’s been held and defined by the books, meanings, and properties you see plastered everywhere around you.

This roadmap starts by recognizing that you do know enough, you are qualified, you are allowed to trust yourself, and you do have worth.

And based on that premise, you get to choose the crystal because it makes sense to you.

You interpret the cards based on what you saw and intuited.

You learn that even if you don’t have the textbook meaning down, you still get something useful out of working with the tool.

That even if you use the tools imperfectly, nothing terrible happens, and you learn and improve every single time.

You don’t need someone else to certify that you are worthy of using your crystals and tarot.

You get to define your worth for yourself.

Define Worth and Expand

And here’s the best part of all of this.

Once you realize there’s no downside to choosing you, defining your worth in your crystal and tarot practice, you will be less inclined to accept less from those other places.

Rituals and Community Support

All of this said, you don’t need to do this alone.

You can join me each month for the New Moon Crystal Ritual, where you can learn about five crystals aligned with the astrological phase of the moon and use them in a guided healing ritual.

Or if you want a deeper experience where you can untangle the limiting thoughts keeping you stuck and build your self-belief, you can join me in the Empath Inner Circle inside the Crystal Self Healer members portal. The links to register are in the show notes, and I look forward to supporting you as you define your worth.

Today’s episode has been brought to you by Citrine and Self Worth. May we all define our worth so we can experience life as an expression of our highest good. Blessed be, my friends.

Closing and Next Steps

All right, my friends, that wraps up this week’s episode. Thank you for joining me here today on the Crystal Self Healer Podcast. If you haven’t already, hit Subscribe, leave a review, and take the What Crystal is Best for You Quiz linked in the show notes. Join me again next week as we continue to demystify crystals, how your brain works, and how you can use them so you can have more energy, get more done, and feel better every day.