If you’ve ever felt like you had to smile through the struggle or “stay positive” when you were falling apart inside, you’re not alone. Cut through the illusion of what it means to live a “high vibe” lifestyle as we look at the dark side of love and light.

 

Well-meaning spiritual messages can quietly become toxic positivity, keeping you stuck in passive hope instead of real transformation. We explore the false promises of blind optimism and reveal why skipping over your pain isn’t spiritual – it’s stalling your healing.

 

YOU WILL DISCOVER:

 

🗝️ What toxic positivity looks like when masked as spiritual alignment

🗝️ Why relying on love and light alone can prevent true emotional healing

🗝️ The difference between holding out hope and building belief

🗝️ Why building belief brings more clarity than forced optimism

🗝️ How Hematite helps you in moving through heavy emotions with clarity.

 

Ready to stop pretending and start healing? Tune in now

 

00:00 Introduction to the Crystal Self Healer Podcast

00:40 The Book of Mormon and Emotional Denial

01:44 Understanding the Law of Attraction

02:54 The Dark Side of Love and Light

04:20 Releasing Unrealistic Hope

06:07 Processing Emotions and Aligned Action

08:17 Hematite: The Grounding Stone

09:50 Charmed Morning Ritual and Community Invitation

11:20 Join the Crystal Self Healer Members Portal

12:19 Conclusion and Next Steps

 

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Episode #69 – The Dark Side of Love and Light

Introduction to the Crystal Self Healer Podcast

Welcome to the Crystal Self Healer podcast. I’m Corissa Weaver. On this podcast, we blend the magic of crystals with the science of psychology to help you break free from chaos, ditch the overwhelm, and master your emotions so you can have more energy, get more done and feel better every day. Get ready to unlock your intuition and restore your true power as we cover how you can transform your life using crystals and self-awareness.

Are you ready to get started? Alright, let’s go.

The Book of Mormon and Emotional Denial

Have you had the opportunity of going to see the Book of Mormon?

There’s a scene where they sing a song called Turn It Off. It’s all about the denial and shutting down of emotions that are hard or undesirable.

What I love about this song is that it’s a lighthearted look at holding onto image over truth in a way that doesn’t allow for the raw human experience.

There’s an undercurrent in the healing and self-help industry that perpetuates a distorted application of the law of attraction.

This leads so many on a spiritual path to either give up or force it, both resulting in feelings of failure.

Today we’re going to talk about the dark side of love and light. By the end of this episode, you’ll know how to recognize toxic positivity so you can move into a more aligned and powerful place of being.

Understanding the Law of Attraction

So let’s start with the law of attraction. Simply put this spiritual law is saying that like attracts like. And in the spiritual self-help world, you are encouraged to raise your vibration to match that thing you want, so you can call it into your life.

Sounds great, right?

What most people don’t recognize is that when you have been conditioned to look for proof of concept before buying into something, the space of staying in a higher vibe state feels really unnatural.

Very few people naturally allow themselves to hold clean and clear space for their future manifestation.

Human nature is to revert back to what we know, what is comfortable, what is not perceived as risky.

Holding onto a dream, goal, or desired state of being that is so foreign to your normal experience feels really uncomfortable.

And then the pragmatic side of you will kick in reminding you that it’s not real.

The Dark Side of Love and Light

This ties directly into the sentiment of love and light. This space you’re expected to live in, to radiate from.

When human emotions come up like anger, fear, sadness, the act of sitting in love and light seems very counterintuitive.

To sit in love and light becomes a form of toxic positivity when you feel like you need to stuff the negative emotions down in order to keep up the appearance of a high vibe lifestyle.

So the card we’re going to look at is the Star in the what to release position.

Traditionally, this card is associated with hope and guidance. The holding on to the vision, the desired end result with the divine connection and spiritual guidance to get there.

There’s hopeful imagery used in the card with the two jugs, both pouring water and the water reaching the pond no matter where the water was poured.

We can’t overlook that we only see stars at night, so there’s a nod to our subconscious and the things we don’t yet see.

And that’s pretty amazing, right?

The deep down acknowledgement that everything is going to plan, that it’s all going to be okay even if we can’t see it.

Releasing Unrealistic Hope

But we can’t forget that this is in the what to release position, so this hopefulness is what is getting in the way.

As within the love and light sentiment, there is an attachment to an idealized, almost unrealistic vision of hope and healing. This asking for unrelenting optimism without space for real emotional expression.

The Star in the what to release position is asking you to examine where you may be engaging in a passive role. Where you’re holding on to hope and a prayer that it’s going to happen without acknowledging where you could step in to bring about your desired outcome.

So if you haven’t noticed this yet, there is a fine line, this dance you’re engaging in when it comes to love and light. And that’s how much is just enough hope that doesn’t fall into fruitless hoping, or the stuffing down of real human emotions.

A lot of life isn’t pretty. It can be downright dull. And if you’re measuring yourself against whether you’re happy go lucky all the time, you are going to feel fake and like an imposter.

It’s time to release the idea of being perpetually hopeful or shining like a star at all times.

There’s a difference between holding out hope and building belief.

While holding out hope is passive, building belief is an active endeavor, one that helps you attain alignment with your desired end result.

Processing Emotions and Aligned Action

Instead of stuffing down the big or heavy emotions and creating energetic blocks, you process the emotions that are really indicators of where there is a mismatch in your inward and outward experience.

You can go back and listen to the episode on how to process emotions because there’s a lot of good stuff in there.

But as long as the emotions are sitting in your body, whether you’re aware of them or not, they create blocks for the very thing you want to experience, and that’s more alignment, more happiness, more joy in your life.

I talk to my clients about aligned action all the time: the taking steps from a place of deep, cognitive and emotional ownership.

It’s this aligned action that allows you to feel more at ease along the journey when things aren’t going the way you want them to, or you find yourself overwhelmed.

Striving for love and light when it’s not in alignment with where you are, what you still need to process is the epitome of the patriarchy telling you to be small, not make noise, grin, and bear it, put your head down, work hard, wait for your return, to smile more because you’d be much prettier.

Throughout history people in many cultures have been discouraged from expressing emotions, especially ones that make other people uncomfortable, like sadness, anger, and grief.

As a parent of three kids, I get how complicated navigating the emotions of other people can be. But what I do know from my upbringing, coupled with my education, is that it’s way better to process your emotions than it is to stuff them down and ignore them.

It’s what allows you to stay in a grounded reality and helps you stay rooted in the process of healing and your journey.

Hematite: The Grounding Stone

I am going to offer Hematite as the crystal to work with when dealing with the dark side of love and light, and here’s why.

Hematite is a grounding stone that helps to anchor you back into the present moment. When you’re faced with toxic positivity and the pressure to maintain an idealized image of high vibe, Hematite will provide much needed balance.

This crystal can help you distinguish between genuinely uplifting optimism and the kind of forced positivity that is common with spiritual bypassing. Hematite helps to create a sense of safety within your own body and empowers you to feel all your emotions.

Hematite provides stability, helping you process heavy emotions, and clarity that supports the necessary shift from passive hoping to active belief building. Your aligned action will come from a place of grounded awareness rather than from a place of pretending everything is fine.

The protective aspect of Hematite will be comforting as you explore and navigate the heavy and uncomfortable emotions, helping you to stay centered and avoid feeling overwhelmed. It will support you in holding space for your emotions without letting them dictate your actions or wellbeing.

Charmed Morning Ritual and Community Invitation

As you work with your Hematite to move past the dark side of love and light, I’m going to invite you to use the free Charmed Morning Ritual Worksheet.

It’s a great way to check in with yourself each morning, set your emotional and spiritual intentions, and stay grounded as you move through the day.

It will support you in releasing the need for false optimism and instead engage you in an intentional, grounded practice that honors your real emotions and the aligned actions you plan to take to stay in that authentic state of raised vibration.

Today’s pairing of the Star card with Hematite is from a recent crystal and tarot forecast inside the Charmed Community.

I invite you to join me in this free space where I share these readings weekly to help you align your energy and focus your week.

You’ll also get the opportunity to connect with others who are exploring their growth and creating change in their lives just like you.

Join us for free, the link is in the show notes.

And if you’re tired of being on an emotional rollercoaster, constantly juggling everything in your life, and you want to be part of a space that holds you in your healing.

Join the Crystal Self Healer Members Portal

A space where you could feel seen, supported, and connected, I’d love to have you join me inside the Crystal Self Healer members portal.

It’s where we go beyond the weekly guidance and we apply it to your life, equipping you with the tools, resources, and support to build your confidence in crystal healing and emotional self-care.

Inside you’ll get personalized coaching, healing sessions, rituals, and everything you need to truly empower yourself to live with more ease and alignment.

Visit my website www.threecharmedgems.com or click the link in the show notes to learn more and join me.

It is time to stop living at the mercy of emotional triggers and to start living in spiritual integrity. The Crystal Self Healer members portal is where that shift begins. Come and find your clarity.

Conclusion and Next Steps

Today’s episode has been brought to you by the Star, Hematite, and building belief. May we all approach our journey with aligned action and build our self belief with each passing day. Blessed be, my friends.

All right, my friends, that wraps up this week’s episode. Thank you for joining me here today on the Crystal Self Healer Podcast. If you haven’t already, hit subscribe, leave a review and take the what Crystal is best for you. Quiz linked in the show notes. Join me again next week as we continue to demystify crystals, how your brain works and how you can use them so you can have more energy, get more done, and feel better every day.