As women we tend to hold space for others, allow grace for people’s mistakes and short comings. We tend to hold ourselves to a higher expectation, creating a double standard of what is acceptable. Constantly showering our love, attention and forgiveness on others and not ourselves. You can find yourself in toxic relationships if you don’t know how to love yourself.
Toxic relationships can lead to feeling like life is happening to you, inducing victim mentality. You are left asking why everything goes wrong. Unfortunately, as long as you aren’t able to love yourself, the love we receive from others will be a reflection of the love we subconsciously feel we deserve.
Show Yourself What Healthy Love Is
Many of us have been on the airplane during the safety announcements where we are instructed to put our mask on first before helping those around us. When you are unable to love yourself, without condition, you will not be able to receive unconditional love from someone else.
Because we don’t have healthy boundaries, we have established an environment where people can take advantage of our kindness. Without self love, we don’t have a clear expectation of how we want other people to treat us and will tend to accept poor treatment, and maybe even verbal or physical abuse.
When you don’t know how to love yourself, you will have difficulty forgiving yourself for your mistakes, or allowing yourself to move past something you are not proud of.
You deserve the same love that you bestow on others, but that love must come from you.
Crystals and Essential Oils for Energetic Shift
- Optical Calcite – (all chakras)
- a stone of clarity will help you see things clearly,
- being double-refractive it aids you in being able to see things from different perspectives
- Fluorite – (all chakras, depends on color)
- aids with mental clarity
- enhance your ability to learn from the past issues you are making your peace with
- Rose Quartz – (heart chakra)
- gets you in the vibration of compassion
- turn your thoughts to the more positive view
- releasing the negative self-talk of not being good enough
In addition, pairing these crystals with essential oils like Bergamot which is uplifting, or Lavender that is soothing and comforting, adds another vibrational level to your energetic shift.