You may know exactly what you want your life and spiritual practice to look like. But knowing what you want and trusting yourself enough to actually choose it are two different things. You can close this gap when you learn how to be yourself with carnelian as your ally.

 

In this episode we explore how old rules, expectations, and the fear of disappointing people can interfere with your ability to trust your own authority and authentically yourself.

 

YOU WILL LEARN:

 

🗝️ Why the person you want to be may already be part of who you are.

🗝️ Why “I couldn’t do that” is worth questioning.

🗝️ The questions you can ask yourself when you don’t know what to do next.

🗝️ Why self-belief matters when you’re ready to stop overriding yourself.

🗝️ How Carnelian supports the courage to move from knowing to doing.

 

Listen now to learn how to be yourself, trust yourself, and start choosing accordingly.

 

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0:00 Podcast Welcome

0:41 Why Your Current Reality Matters

1:08 Who You Want to Be vs Who You Are Being

2:43 The “This Is Hard” Thought

3:19 Why You Don’t Trust Yourself

4:12 The Rules That Keep You From Being Yourself

5:26 Carnelian and Your Authentic Identity

7:38 Questions to Start Trusting Yourself

8:05 Taking Action With Carnelian

8:45 New Moon Ritual Invite

8:53 Empath Inner Circle Invitation

9:29 Closing and Affirmation

Episode #119 – How to be Yourself With Carnelian

Podcast Welcome

Welcome to the Crystal Self Healer Podcast. I’m Corissa Weaver. On this podcast, we blend the magic of crystals with the science of psychology to help you break free from chaos, ditch the overwhelm, and master your emotions so you can have more energy, get more done, and feel better every day. Get ready to unlock your intuition and restore your true power as we cover how you can transform your life using crystals and self-awareness.

Are you ready to get started? All right, let’s go

Why Your Current Reality Matters

One of the hardest lessons I’ve had to learn in my practice with crystals and tarot is that my current reality is the product of my past decisions, actions, and inaction.

Yeah.

That is a big one to swallow when you’re telling yourself you don’t know what you’re doing, or how to start, or when you’re telling yourself you don’t know enough.

Who You Want to Be vs Who You Are Being

You undoubtedly have a vision of yourself and think that this is the dream, the ideal. But every day you look at the reality of your life and you’re like, how did I get here? And how do I get there from here?

This is the juxtaposition of not being the person you want to be.

Wanting to have that daily practice, the one you dream of in your head; the morning ritual, the candles flickering, the sacred herb smoke wafting, working with your crystals, journaling.

But you’re treading water with your current experience, denying yourself the opportunity to actually do those things you’re dreaming about.

I think that deep down, each of you want to feel authentic and genuine in how you show up every day.

And today, we’ll examine how to be yourself, and why Carnelian can be your ally.

You say you want to use your crystals, but there’s always something that stands in the way.

In the last episode, we talked about the importance of coming back to what matters, and that premise applies here.

But you can’t ignore the ways your attempts to be yourself get thwarted when you do try.

That, again, is the juxtaposition of who you want to be and who you are being.

The “This Is Hard” Thought

When I sit down to write my podcast episodes, I open my notes app, my document editor, and then I’m faced with the blank page.

This is when my unconscious brain tells me, “This is hard.”

This innocent thought that’s triggered at the beginning of each writing session is what stops me every time.

Yet, each week, I also talk freely for roughly forty-five minutes without a script inside my Facebook group.

So the this is hard thought is objectively not true.

Why You Don’t Trust Yourself

What I was really coming up against is that when it comes to scripting the podcast, I don’t trust myself to do it the way I do my weekly live.

What is happening is that when I sit down in front of a blank page, I’m imposing a different standard, a different set of rules about how I’m supposed to show up and do things.

It’s not that I don’t have things to talk about or write about, or that I was incapable of creating what it was I had rattling around in my head.

The problem was that I didn’t trust what I knew, what I am capable of.

And I’m certain these are hitting home with you right now when it comes to how you currently see yourself and the way you wish you could be.

The Rules That Keep You From Being Yourself

I want to backtrack a little and make a distinction between who you want to be and being yourself, because I think there’s some unaddressed tension that needs to be examined.

I think we often carry this vision of who we want to be, not because it’s someone we currently aren’t or couldn’t be, but because on a subconscious level, we haven’t allowed ourselves to fully embrace that as our reality.

You separate this identity from your current lived experience because there’s some rule you believe needs to be fulfilled first before you can actually be that.

So when you spend a lot of time trying to check off all the items that legitimize believing in the identity, you never fully live from that reality.

By keeping that space between the vision and your reality, this gap gets perceived as keeping you safe from experiencing the unknown, or the pain of failing either at your goal or the people you don’t want to let down.

Carnelian and Your Authentic Identity

And this is where Carnelian is the perfect crystal to work with.

Carnelian carries a fiery energy that really strikes in the sacral chakra.

And the sacral chakra is all about courage, vitality, reproduction, taking action, and your identity.

You see, the sacral chakra is connected to the phase of life where you begin to develop your identity, the years when you realize you aren’t just an extension of your parents or family unit, but a whole realized person in and of yourself.

My middle kid calls these the years she became conscious.

Not because she wasn’t her own individual, but because she realized she existed within and outside of the boundaries and rules we held as a household.

These are the middle school years, and if you’ve spent any time around middle schoolers, they are excellent at questioning and challenging the boundaries and rules that had previously been containing them.

Your identity is shaped by how you see yourself and how you interact with the world.

And I know that for many of you listening here today, the way in which you experienced your younger years, you have internalized and shouldered a lot of emotional responsibility and rules that didn’t leave you feeling very confident in your own authority or ability to be authentically yourself.

You may have a big, bold, authentic identity, but when you feel like you’d be disappointing someone you value if you were to go out and live that way, you deny your ability to be yourself.

And this brings us back to the hard lesson learned.

As long as you decide to stay where you are or you choose to not make a change, you will always feel like you’re not being yourself.

Questions to Start Trusting Yourself

Notice when you say to yourself, “Oh, no, I couldn’t do that,” then switch it out for better quality questions.

Questions like, “What would that version of me be doing right now? What choices would they be making? What would happen if I chose that for me right now?” And, “Do I trust myself to handle whatever might happen?”

And don’t stop there.

Taking Action With Carnelian

When you figure out what those things are, that’s when you need the energy of carnelian, and it supports you in actually taking the action on them.

This is when you get to stop overriding yourself with old habits and rules that keep you stuck.

It’s when you start to make choices that light you up, and you actually enjoy them.

When you start prioritizing the things that you want and the things that help you feel more like yourself.

So why not take that first step and start being yourself, the one who has a crystal and tarot practice?

New Moon Ritual Invite

I can support you each month when you join me for the new moon ritual.

You can sign up using the link below.

Empath Inner Circle Invitation

And if you want to take it deeper and want to build your courage to try and your self-belief as part of your practice, then I invite you to work with me inside the Empath Inner Circle, where you will realize just how capable you are and that who you already are is enough.

Today’s episode has been brought to you by carnelian and self-belief. May we all have enough self-belief so we can all be authentically ourselves. Blessed be, my friends.

Closing and Affirmation

All right, my friends, that wraps up this week’s episode. Thank you for joining me here today on the Crystal Self Healer Podcast. If you haven’t already, hit Subscribe, leave a review, and take the What Crystal is Best for You quiz linked in the show notes. Join me again next week as we continue to demystify crystals, how your brain works, and how you can use them so you can have more energy, get more done, and feel better every day.