Trust issues don’t heal by trying harder with other people. They heal when you prioritize emotional safety as your path to trust building.

 

Trusting after being hurt can be a struggle. This episode breaks down why trust issues show up the way they do, and how Amethyst helps you find your way back to yourself.

 

YOU WILL DISCOVER:

 

💫 Why trust issues aren’t really about other people.

💫 How you set yourself up for repeated hurt through people pleasing and self-abandonment.

💫 How Amethyst supports rebuilding trust, protection, and Divine connection.

💫 Why forgiveness might be the wrong goal and what to do instead.

 

Listen now to break out of constantly giving to only feel let down, and start building the emotional safety and self trust that make every part of your life feel steadier.

 

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00:00 Welcome and Mission

00:40 When Trust Breaks

02:07 Empath Patterns

03:16 Why Trust Collapses

04:35 Emotional Safety Shift

06:09 Amethyst for Protection

08:09 Grace Over Forgiveness

08:44 Members Portal Practice

09:48 Lunar Cycle Rituals

10:32 Closing and Next Week

Episode #115 – Trust Building with Amethyst

Welcome and Mission

Welcome to the Crystal Self Healer Podcast. I’m Corissa Weaver. On this podcast, we blend the magic of crystals with the science of psychology to help you break free from chaos, ditch the overwhelm, and master your emotions so you can have more energy, get more done, and feel better every day. Get ready to unlock your intuition and restore your true power as we cover how you can transform your life using crystals and self-awareness.

Are you ready to get started? All right, let’s go

When Trust Breaks

When trust is violated, it can have a reverberating effect in your life.

The rawness of the emotions, the lingering doubt and worry.

Trust is one of those things that once it has been abused, it’s hard to rebuild.

When trust is broken, you’re likely to withdraw from the people around you.

It’s a protective mechanism meant to keep you safe from feeling vulnerable or exposed.

If left unattended or unprocessed, over time, not only will you continue to feel hurt, you’ll feel isolated, alone, and rejected.

For empath and sensitive women, this is the perfect setup for your tendency to shrink, to people-please, to twist yourself into someone you don’t recognize for the comfort or approval of others.

This dynamic, the performing, the facade of being okay while you’re dying inside, wondering what you did wrong, or trying to figure out why things went the way they went, that drains your energy and damages your sense of self.

In this episode, we’re going to cover what you can do for trust building and how that applies to your relationships, yourself, and your crystal and tarot practice.

Empath Patterns

As an empath, you genuinely want to be a caring and supportive person.

But also as an empath, that may not include a healthy boundary between being caring and supportive while also tending to your own emotional and physical needs.

For you, when people do what people do, which is put themselves first, it will send you into a tailspin of worry, hurt, and self-doubt.

When these situations are focused inward, used as a reflection of you and your worth, they crush your ability to trust others’ intentions and actions towards you.

Energetically, something snaps.

With each and every one of your relationships, you establish an energetic attachment, a cord, if you will.

When that cord gets pulled beyond what it can endure, it has no option but to give way.

And most often, you are the one that gets hit in the face or heart, making it hard for you to trust others or even yourself.

Why Trust Collapses

So let’s take a minute and get clear on some of the ways you may find yourself here.

When your nature is to give and give to the people you value or the situations that you’re in, while also hoping for a sliver of that effort to be reciprocated, it feels like a deep betrayal.

Your inability to trust people in your life comes from your emotional needs constantly being overlooked or ignored.

Maybe because there’s no reciprocated or shared sense of trying to help each other or being seen and heard by those who are supposed to care for you.

It can be the result of competitiveness or jealousy within your workplace or when colleagues are undermining your ability to do a good job.

Or it could be because by constantly focusing your mental energy outward onto what others are doing, caring deeply about what they think and relying on their permission or approval that you get caught in a loop where when those external dynamics don’t materialize, your happiness, confidence, and sense of emotional safety suffers.

Emotional Safety Shift

The easiest thing to think is that you can’t trust other people, and that may be true.

But there’s someone else who can make a marked improvement in your ability to trust, and that is you, when you shift your focus onto cultivating your own emotional safety.

Inside the Empath Inner Circle, the most recent workbook addressed exactly this scenario, creating emotional safety so you can trust yourself with and around people.

Not a single person out there is immune to having been hurt by other people.

People don’t always see how and where their actions negatively impact you.

Not that they always think they can never do wrong, but that they are blind to you and your experience.

You’re left holding the emotional bag because you’re not even on their radar.

And the sting of that really hurts, especially if you link that to your ability to feel safe in the world, in the way you show up, and in the way you experience your life.

There’s a common practice that negatively adds to this dynamic, and that’s forgiving so you can find your own peace and move on.

I think that’s a misrepresentative demand to place on yourself, especially if you haven’t established a sense of healthy emotional safety.

Amethyst for Protection

That’s why I would suggest Amethyst as a crystal to work with here for a few reasons.

First and foremost, Amethyst carries a protective energy about it, almost like it creates an energetic cocoon around you that mimics the safety you wish were coming from the people and spaces around you.

This protective Amethyst bubble will give you some breathing room and the ability to put down your guard a little bit so you can do more of the transformative work ahead.

Amethyst is also excellent for establishing and strengthening your divine connection.

Not just your ability to experience the clear intuitive channel, but to connect with your true divine self.

The one that’s meant to be here in all its perfection, just as you are.

When you have a solid connection with yourself, your right to be here, to experience the good stuff, the attachment to the belief that you only deserve scraps of attention or consideration from others starts to lose its hold.

And finally, amethyst is believed to assist with the releasing of addictive behaviors, and that, my friend, is going directly after the thoughts and beliefs you come back to on the regular that it’s something wrong with you that is why you always find yourself where you are.

When these three energetics express themselves in your own self-derived emotional safety, you get to see the world differently.

You get to show up more powerfully.

You no longer rely on others for permission to be yourself, and their actions no longer define who you see yourself as.

Grace Over Forgiveness

Which brings us back to forgiveness.

I think there’s too much pressure when you think you need to forgive, and also there’s a certain underlying understanding that forgiveness leads to absolving the person.

I much prefer to look towards grace instead.

Life can be complicated and messy, and we can all use grace from time to time.

But grace never absolves anyone from their responsibility to be a decent human.

Members Portal Practice

Experiencing that unshakable self-derived emotional safety requires moving your crystals and tarot off the pages of a book and into real-world energetic use, which is why the Crystal Self Healer members portal focuses on the doing instead of learning and memorizing more things.

The portal is about getting you from I’ve read about to the I do space of your practice.

The integration and embodiment of everything you’ve been trying to master comes from the doing, and you can get that when you join me inside the Crystal Self Healer members portal.

Depending on where you are, there are three levels of support that help you go from I don’t know to I know.

Whether you start by simply receiving a collective healing or you’re ready for the deep work in mentorship calls, the goal is the same: shifting from studying to doing.

Lunar Cycle Rituals

Each month, we move through the lunar cycle together, setting intentions at the new moon using crystals aligned to the astrological energy.

We then perform ritual to build momentum at the first quarter. We heal and release what no longer serves at the full moon, and nurture and tend to ourselves in the fourth quarter.

It’s not about learning more. It’s about doing consistently in a way that becomes second nature.

Take that first step in beginning your practice by going to my website, threecharmedgems.com, and come home to yourself through practice.

Closing and Next Week

Today’s episode has been brought to you by amethyst and emotional safety.

May we all be unshakable in ourselves so we can build trust in others. Blessed be, my friends.

All right, my friends, that wraps up this week’s episode. Thank you for joining me here today on the Crystal Self Healer Podcast. If you haven’t already, hit Subscribe, leave a review, and take the What Crystal is Best for You quiz linked in the show notes. Join me again next week as we continue to demystify crystals, how your brain works, and how you can use them so you can have more energy, get more done, and feel better every day.